Posts by Been there

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Don't give up

by pennycandy in

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i have read so many posts relating conversations or correspondance with jw's who you think just don't "get it".

after presenting what you're sure is hard evidence against their organization, they roll their eyes and shoo you away, and you walk away thinking that they're so brainwashed they'll never see reality.. i don't remember every petty negative comment i ever heard about the org, but i'm pretty sure i remember every issue of substance i came across.

a householder at the door explaining john 1:1, a whispered conversation about the content of c of c, an inactive person saying they'll never come back because they discovered the "truth" wasn't the truth, seeing for myself changing doctrine.

Been there

Good post PC.

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Remembering

by Granny Linda in

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i spoke with my elderly aunt yesterday about much of what i've read over this past week...catching up on the best of series...well, some of it anyhow; and her comments echoed much of what many former jw's have already spoken of.. she reminded me how many years ago when her one grandchild needed a blood transfusion and her daughter had called in a panic...my aunt simply told her to do what she felt for best for the child - not the church.

or, the sometimes humerous stories of field service - the dreaded thought that someone might actually answer their door.

my aunt releated how her own father had once asked if she wanted to "pioneer" and when my aunt told him, "no" my grandfather had the most shocked look on his face.

Been there

I wish my old aunt was like your old aunt. Love back to her! She sounds like a blast.

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Just pass me a cigarette and hold on

by Eyebrow2 in

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been a while since i have had a chance to visit the board.

a lot of things have happened...dealing with some business crap....ending one and starting a new one with a partner this time...dealing with child custody issues...my husband was laid off....just general stress....arghhhh!!!!.

everything is going to work out i am sure...but i bought my first pack of cigarettes in 10 years on sunday.

Been there

Here I come. :o)

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When Can I be Selfish??

by snbdye2000 in

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i am not a jehovah's witness, nor have ever been.

i cannot even come close to relating what that is like.

however, my husband has been studying with them.

Been there

YOU ARE NOT BEING SELFISH!!!!!

HE is being selfish if he is not making it a joint decision. He is part of a pair. He has pulled the rug out from under you and does'nt want you to be angry. Probably you should get some counciling so you don't waste years of your life trying to hang on without help. Maybe it can speed up your thought processes. Sounds like you already know you won't tolerate this long. Dr. Phil would call this a deal breaker.

Is he trying to attone for his past and show God what a fine upstanding person he is trying to be? Is this the permission he needs to be abusive if you are not in submission to him? Your daughter is caught in the middle. The stress of opposition between her parents will be far more harmful then what ever belief system she may be taught.

He needs to love you and respect your beliefs also for you two to come to a compromise and live together peacefully if not you will resent him and grow to hate him. If you are miserable in a marriage...your children are in a miserable marriage with you. You have a choice. They don't.

IMHO

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COFFFFFEEEEE!!!!!!

by Soledad in

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i'm so thrilled i bought my stove top espresso maker today!!!

yipeeeeee!!.

i've been looking for these for months!.

Been there

Wild Horses,

I had not heard of egg shells but I put a couple shakes of a salt shaker in my grinds before brewing. My Granny always did that for the same reason as the egg shells (to cut down on the bitter taste). It does give it a smoother taste. The egg shells are calcium are'nt they? so it would be like putting a Rolaid in the pot to cut down on acid maybe???

I have a programable coffee pot and consider it one of life simple pleasures, waking up to hot coffee. Almost like having a maid. I wish the maid was there last weekend when hubby forgot to put the pot in and turned the coffee on auto. I had water and coffee grounds ALL over the counter top, what a mess.

Yep, a couple cups of coffee and JWD first thing in the morning....Life is good.

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Ladies only!!

by Scully in

got this story from a friend....last night, my friends and i went to a ladies night club.

one of the girls wanted to impress the rest of us, so she pulled out a $10 bill.

when the male dancer came over to us, my friend licked the $10 bill and stuck it to his butt cheek!

Been there

Now THAT was funny. Guess you could call it a dirty joke.

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Trying to track down a pedophile...

by Elsewhere in

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there has been some interesting activity today, and i don't think it is jw related!

let me elaborate a bit.... .

my phone's log shows two different phone calls from the area where i grew up in se texas.

Been there

Maybe you could join classmates.com and someone there may remember him. Maybe (probably not) he is a registered sex offender and can be looked up for that town.

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The Loss of Innocence.....and Recovering

by Frannie Banannie in

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in mulling over the almost 6 decades of my life, almost two decades of which were spent being enamored of just one more false religion, then spending the following decade discovering all of its deceptions, i feel a tremendous loss of innocence.

as though i were a victim of sexual assault, i don?t now believe that i will ever recover an ability to believe or trust in anyone where religion or blind faith in anything is concerned again in this lifetime.

because, to me......that?s what faith is.....blindness.

Been there

Frannie,

I totally understand what you are saying. I was thinking not to long ago about something like that. I was wondering if people are all wired different. If something happens when you are very young, does that wire you to think a certain way forever, or is it biological. I was thinking to myself how I remember all my physical hurts growing up with great clearity. Likewise all my emotional hurts. It is if they are branded with a hot poker into my memory. With each branding a scar is raised never to be pristine again. Why does the poker of unfairness, injustice and deceit create a bigger scar then stupidity and ignorance? I don't remember the good things with the same emotional attachment as the bad.

Is it a long lost survival trait that bookmarks painfull things as dangerous. Is it adrenaline? Is this so we remember not to do it again?

I can picture my life (from birth on) as a pure white sheet hanging out on a breezy sunny day blowing to and fro. All was well until a bird landed on the line, then another and another, then a whole flock of birds came to roost on the line. At first it's not too hard to brush off a spot or two but after awhile I started getting stiff, then stiffer, then the weight of all the poop pulled me off the line. Now I'm so bogged down with bird poop if I bend at all I may break.

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